January 30, 2013

Red Wednesday's Wisdom - CHG #7, Part Three

Implement a Prioritized Plan with Patience
In my Home Touched business, this is the time of year when people are really devoted to getting their “stuff” in order, so it is important, as we addressed last week, to first visualize the “fishing net” or containers that you will need to get yourself started. 

As a reminder, the Scripture to support CHG #7 is from Matthew 13:47-48, “…a fishing net is thrown into the water and gathers fish of every kind. …sitsort …and throw the bad ones away.”
 
GATHERING
In preparation to go fishing or get organized, the gathering process is essential.  Gathering is a three step process and it always involves patience.

1. The first step in gathering is to slow down so you can look at your surroundings and gather information that tells you about what room or area to start in.  Like a fisherman, you need to decide on the location that you want to fish in.  If storage areas need attention, an attic, the basement, or garage, then these are the places to start in.  You will then be ready for the storing of things from other areas.  Once the storage areas have been addressed, you can then start with the room that will give you the greatest satisfaction in being decluttered.  Sometimes it is the room that can be done in the shortest amount of time; it is encouraging to see something being completed, and it provides the motivation to press on. With someone else it might be their office because they want to get out from under the overwhelming paperwork.  And for another person, it might be the play area where the pile up of toys is taking over every bit of space.

2. The second step in gathering is to still yourself so you can think about the supplies or tools that you will need to gather. This will prevent you from falling into the trap of getting scattered by running in circles and wandering what to do.  It also keeps you from going back and forth to get this or that. You will need the “net,” or the bags and containers that you already have, so you can “fish” for, or gather, your smaller “stuff.”  This includes grocery bags (paper or plastic), black and white trash bags, assorted clear bags (sandwich size, quart, 1 and 2 gallon), and/or unused laundry baskets or plastic containers.  In addition to your containers, you will need a sharpie marker and Post-its.
 
3. The third step in gathering is being the fisherman who gathers the fish. We will make piles, but once again, here is where the patience and slowing down are so crucial.  Fishing involves very little body movement, so sitting is very important both symbolically and literally.  From a symbolic perspective, sitting means that you stay in one place, moving very little, and you complete your gathering in one area before you move on to the next one.  If things are on the floor, then stick to gathering the floor items.  And remember, if there is no pathway for the feet, then you always start with the floor.  If it is a counter that needs cleared, then stay at the counter area.  Seeing through with one area before moving on to the next relates to CHG #6 and the importance of seeing through your stuff and following through.  The follow through is what keeps you from getting overwhelmed and scattered.  Please keep in mind that the only activity you are implementing at this time is gathering.  Avoid examining or studying paper items while gathering, otherwise, you are going to get yourself side tracked.  Examining and studying is part of the sorting process that comes after gathering.  Put all your gathered containers, or larger items, to the perimeter of the room or in a corner to keep the floor area clean.
 
SORTING
Like a fisherman, you literally want to sit sometimes when it comes to sorting which “fish” to keep and which ones to throw out.  There will be times when you need to stand and move a little, but the idea is to decrease how much you move around in order to conserve your time and energy. Sorting, like gathering, has a number of different levels. First of all, you are going to sit on the floor or at a table that has been cleared out.  You are then going to focus on one gathered container at a time.  Empty the container’s contents and begin to sort by putting items into “like” categories. This is where you will begin to use the sharpie and Post-its to identify the categories that develop as a result of your sorting.  Even though your eyes see what is in the sorted pile, the Post-its save a lot of time and lessen confusion, especially when there are multiple piles. This is particularly true when it comes to doing an office with all of its numerous supplies and various papers.  You want to locate things with ease and not frustration.  Your mind will then stay clear and your emotions will remain calm.

I want to caution you that you are still not studying or examining these initial sorted piles.  Also keep in mind that there are times when it is obvious that something is trash.  So there is usually a pile that immediately gets designated as “trash”- throwing out the bad.

When you have sorted all the contents of one container, start with another one. Continue to do this until all the containers have been emptied and sorted.

Here are a few examples of some very general sorted categories that have not yet been finely sorted into more specific categories, something we will address next week.

♥ Storage areas: cleaning supplies, balls, bikes, decorations, keepsakes, photos/albums   

♥ Office area: periodicals, calendar events, coupons/gift cards, bills, school papers, notes, paper

♥ Play area: crayons, markers, stuffed animals, dolls, kitchen, costumes, locomotion, music.

I hope this information inspires you to actually enjoy the process of getting decluttered and to embrace that one area that you have been putting off.  Next week we will continue to talk about sorting and how it becomes more refined as we begin to examine and study the sorted piles. 

This week your SW is to focus on getting organized.  So get the fishing net that will help you to get started and begin to do some gathering and sorting.

           ♥ Ask the Lord to help you choose the one living or work area that you would like to declutter.
 
           ♥ Implement the steps that will help you get organized by gathering and sorting.

January 16, 2013

Red Wednesday's Wisdom - CHG #7, Part Two

Implement a Prioritized Plan with Patience
All week I have been thinking about how thankful, helpful, and inspired I have been by the visually enlightening story of “The Fishing Net” from Matthew 13:47-48.  It was a constant support and reminder to me of how I needed to implement a prioritized plan with patience as I faced, once again, the thick and deep mucky waters of addictive family clutter and all of its emotional trappings. Jesus’ parable of “The Fishing Net” models every CHG that we have discussed up to this point, and it demonstrates the prioritized plan we can take to get through any kind and every kind of clutter when we implement this teaching about fishing:

CHG #1 - Slow Down.  You can not be in a hurry to fish.  Learn patience.

CHG #2 - Love the Lord.  God is the Master Fisherman, so let Him be the One to teach you.

CHG #3 - Ask for Help, Ask Questions, and Pray.  God is the Master Guide.  He has all the answers.  He knows how you need to fish and where you need to fish, so do it together.

CHG #4 - Love Myself and Others.   Fishing with God equips you to be more like Him.

CHG #5 - Embrace Change and Set Goals Patiently.  Fish each day with God and He will always be the Captain in your boat.

CHG #6 - See through My Stuff from the Inside out and Follow Through.  When we look beyond the cover of the Bible, to open it and see what is inside, we learn how to fish for life.

Last week’s SW was about doing some fishing with respect to where you want to be when your life has come to an end.  I hope that you were able to slow down and think about that question.  If you did I hope you have greater clarity this week than last week about where you stand with your answer and why.

I also asked you to think about the fishing net and what its symbolism could represent.  With respect to getting organized, the net symbolizes the container that you need in order to gather your fish or your “stuff.” So here are some examples of containers for gathering.
 
The first step to getting organized is to slow down and think about the container that will best fit your need for gathering the amount of “stuff” that is piled up. All you are doing is considering the appropriate container. You are not yet gathering, studying, examining, sorting or doing any other activity at this time.

I want to emphasize that your #1 spiritual container is the Bible.  The Bible contains all the thoughts, feelings, and information that God has gathered in His Book.  God’s directions for us always reflect what He Himself demonstrates.

When it comes to:
♥ Material clutter
Your containers for gathering are folders, grocery or trash bags, boxes, laundry baskets, empty organizing containers, waste baskets, or garbage cans for gathering the papers, toys, laundry, and/or whatever.
WARNING:  At this time, use what you have or what is least expensive to buy, which are trash bags.  Do not go and buy any containers right now.  The containers you are using at this time are only intended for gathering.  Later on we will talk about their use for storing.

When it comes to the other clutter categories, a journal is your primary container: 
♥ Mental Clutter
Have a journal to gather your one word thoughts. Have paper for gathering your to do list.
♥ Emotional Clutter
Have a journal to gather your one word emotions.
♥ Situational clutter
Have a journal to gather the thoughts and feelings that describe the situation you are facing.
♥ Spiritual Clutter
Have a Bible to refer to the thoughts, feelings, and information that God has gathered for you so that He can show you His way compared to your way.  Have a journal to list what God says compared to listing what you say.  This is an example of the communication process that gets gathered between you and God, and I would encourage you to implement this process with any one of the 7 clutter categories.
♥ Physical Health Clutter
Have a journal to list thoughts, feelings, dates, and symptoms related to your health issues.  Have a folder or see through bag to gather test results, care, and follow up. 
♥ Relational Clutter
Have a journal to gather the thoughts and feelings that describe the relational issues that you are facing.

Because I do not want to overwhelm any one with too much organizational information, I will be devoting more time to CHG #7 than some of the other guidelines.  It is my prayer that you will absorb some new information, so you can lessen or avoid some of the chaotic clutter that comes into your life, and you will learn how to implement a prioritized organizational plan with patience.

Next week we will address the other part of last week’s SW that related to the symbolic and literal meaning of:
♥Gathering
♥Sitting
♥Sorting &
♥Throwing out the bad

January 9, 2013

Red Wednesday's Wisdom - CHG #7, Part One

Implement a Prioritized Plan with Patience
Happy New Year everyone, and may 2013 be the year for less clutter in your life! So let’s get started in doing just that.  As you read CHG #7, look at the key words that clue you into the root causes of your clutter as they relate to this CHG.

Implement
Plan
Prioritize
Patience

1. My clutter builds up when I do not implement my prioritized plan with patience.
2. My clutter builds up when I do not have a plan.
3. My clutter builds up when I have a plan, but it is not based on priorities or knowing what is most important.
4. My clutter builds up when I have a prioritized plan that gets implemented, but then it is void of me being patient.

Therefore, when I implement a prioritized plan with patience, I lessen my clutter and this brings healing to me.

This is the guideline that most represents how nurses use what is called, the nursing process, to care for their patients.  The nursing process is based on identifying a patient’s prioritized needs, and then mapping out the steps to meet those needs so that the best plan of care can be implemented.  Because goals are part of this process, patience is once again being reinforced as a very necessary component for any kind of healing.

Healing requires time. First and foremost for healing to begin, we must slow down, so be patient with yourself and one another!

The Scripture to support CHG #7 is from Matthew 13:47-48, “…a fishing net is thrown into the water and gathers fish of every kind. …sit …sort …and throw the bad ones away.”

What does Matthew 13:47-48 imply as being the root cause of my clutter?

♥ My clutter builds up when I do not have a “fishing net.”
♥ My clutter builds up when I do not know how to gather.
♥ My clutter builds up when I do not have the patience of a fisherman to sit, sort, and throw out the bad.

Therefore, when I know how to “fish”, gather, sit, sort, and throw away, I am in the process of becoming organized, and this lessens my clutter and brings healing to me.

So what does a fishing net and fishing have to do with clutter? 

Until I began getting into God’s Word, I had no clue that Matthew 13:47-48 would be the Scriptural backup for CHG #7, or that it would be so descriptive of how I have taught clients about the organizing process.  Through Jesus’ story of the fishing net, I came to the realization that getting organized is just like going fishing. So not only does CHG #7 best reflect the nursing process, its Scriptural reference best describes the organizing process too! 

Look up Matthew 13:47-48 in your Life Recovery Bible and you will see the context in which this Scripture was written.  Jesus is telling the parable, or story, of “The Fishing Net” that is compared to the Kingdom of Heaven, and how there will be a process of sorting the wicked from the righteous.  At the end of time, this will be the reality of what happens. So I want to ask you this: Do you know where you want to be when your life has come to an end? 

Your SW this week is to think about this question and to consider the prioritized plans that God has been patiently showing you in His desire to heal you and grow you spiritually.

Next week we will talk about Matthew 13:47-48 as it relates to the practical aspects of getting your “stuff” organized like a fisherman who is fishing.  In preparation, here are some questions to ponder as you think back to your original clutter category. If you need refreshed, then go back to where I first introduced you to the idea of SW.       
                                         
1.  What do you think the net symbolizes?                                                         
2.  What does sitting, sorting, and throwing mean to you as you think about getting yourself organized in this new year?

December 19, 2012

Red Wednesday's Wisdom - Christmas Reflection

Over the next two weeks I will be taking time off from writing the blog.  I want to give full attention to enjoying and loving on my family as we celebrate the birth of the Christ child and the hope that He gives us as we enter a New Year.  Upon my return, I will introduce you to CHG # 7.

As we adorn our homes with all the majesty and lighting of the Christmas season, I am reminded more than ever of how much we need to honor and receive Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior.  I say this especially in light of the Sandy Hook Elementary School massacre that took place this past Friday, where the lives of 20 precious elementary children and 6 adults were taken in Newtown, Connecticut.  What an example of the darkness and evil that constantly surrounds us and influences us, something we talked about in last Wednesday’s posting. The evil one is real, and he is known as the thief.  John 10:10 tells us that the thief’s purpose is to steal and kill and destroy, but God’s purpose is to give a rich and satisfying life.  Last Friday, December 14, 2012, the thief came without warning and he made his way into a quaint hometown school.  The killer’s only intent was to steal, murder, and destroy.  Obviously, this killer did not know the rich and satisfying life that comes from personally knowing the Christ child, whose only purpose was to die and rise again so we could be saved from the evil one. 

I appreciate the reflection that comes from Grace Communion International and the commentary on John 10:10.  “Jesus' main purpose was the salvation (health) of the sheep, which he defined as free access to pasture and fullness of life. Under his protection and by his gift they can experience the best that life can offer. In the context of John's emphasis on eternal life, this statement takes on new significance. Jesus can give a whole new meaning to living because he provides full satisfaction and perfect guidance.”

We celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ because He is the only One who takes away the clutter of our sinful way of living.  This Christmas, I pray that we make a pathway for Him to enter into our hearts so we learn to love more and fight less.

December 12, 2012

Red Wednesday's Wisdom - CHG #6, Part Three

See Through My Stuff from the Inside Out and Follow Through
This past week I met up with a friend who I had not seen since last year, though we do periodically communicate with one another.  As we eased into our conversation, she made a comment that was very reminiscent of what she had said a year ago. “I always look forward to reading your blog every Wednesday,”  she said.  “It’s as though you know exactly what I am thinking and going through from one week to the next!  How can that be?”  First of all, I wanted to put to rest any fears that she might have had about me knowing any intimate details about her life. I also wanted to reassure her that I had no clue as to what she was dealing with but God does.  The fact that the blog speaks to my friend is such a great affirmation of the Holy Spirit being at work in our individual lives through the SW (Spirit Work).  The Holy Spirit is always at work in our lives, even though we can not see Him.  He is the One who wants to ultimately guide us through our “stuff”.  I get very excited when I witness God working in the lives of others as they seek a relationship with Him. There is no greater reward than to be used by God to point others into His loving arms. 

In recent posts, I have talked about two songs that are such great illustrations of the loving relationship that God wants with each one of us. One is from last week’s posting, When God Ran, and the other is the song called Mary’s Alabaster Box, from two weeks ago.  I never tire of hearing these two songs.  They are a constant reminder to me that I can not forget the way life used to be. I was a prisoner to the sin that had me bound. No one was with me the night that Jesus found me. No one knew what I felt when He wrapped His loving arms around me.  Yes, God ran to me.  He took me in His arms, held my head to His chest, and said, “My daughter has come home again!”  He lifted my face, wiped the tears from my eyes, and with forgiveness in His voice He said, “Do you know that I still love you?”

The past is one of the biggest clutter issues that I see people holding onto.  And many are totally unaware that their past is even enslaving them.  It is often a past that is rooted in fear:
False
Expectations
Appearing
Real

Fear often hides behind the mask of:
♥ Intimidation
♥ Panic
♥ Anxiety
♥ Nervousness
♥ Hopelessness

To get our healing in the present, God will take us to revisit our past.  Since He knows everything about us, He knows where He needs to take us and what He needs to give us in order to heal.
 
Regardless of what clutter category you chose to focus on, each clutter category is rooted in a spiritual component that is reflected in how we think.  We are born with the inherited imprint of sin.  The color black is symbolic of that sin, and as we become more and more familiar with the world that we live in, we see the darkness and evil that surrounds us and is constantly influencing us.  Consequently, when we are born into this dark and evil world, there is also the desire to fight rather than to love.  CHG # 6 is about cleaning out or decluttering our desire to fight, and replacing it with a desire to love.

In closing, we come to You Father, realizing how much easier and safer it feels to examine the faults of someone else.  Please guide us to go inside of ourselves and make an honest inventory of those areas that need to be changed.   We ask for Your help in putting on Your character of humility.  We need to receive what might not be very pleasant for us to see.  Break down those walls of pride and arrogance that we hide behind, so we can feel the outpouring of your love and the personal relationship that You desire to have with each one of us.

December 5, 2012

Red Wednesday's Wisdom - CHG #6, Part Two

See Through My Stuff from the Inside Out and Follow Through
This past week, our SW was to ask the Lord to help us see what we have been blind to seeing, and to then ask Him how we could follow through by addressing that blindness.
One of the questions I was asked this week was, “How do I get organized and where do I even start?”  My one word response would be, “Empty.”  What does empty mean?  I will answer that question by applying CHGs #s 1-6.

CHG #1: Slow down and be still. 
This helps you to go inside of your head and empty out some of your thoughts so you can determine that one area that will give you the most satisfaction in being emptied out or decluttered.  What area will feel good for you to be working on?  

Here is a suggestion.  If storage areas like the basement, attic, garage, or closet are all cluttered up, then I suggest you start in one of those areas.  You need to create a potential “home” for the things you will eventually want to store from other areas. Much of the “stuff” in storage areas piles up and has no order because it is that place that collectively hides what we do not want to see and deal with.  It is also the “stuff” that piles up because you usually do not want to make a decision about it.  Storage areas are a great place to start with because much of the “stuff” gets emptied out as trash or donations. It’s a great feeling to cerate space as you see through your stuff from the inside out.  What has been pushed down on the inside now has the opportunity to come out!

Whatever area you start in, you need to have a pathway for your feet so as to avoid accidents.  So if the floor is all cluttered up you will need to empty the floor first.  This is then followed by counter tops.  When the floor and counter tops are clear you are ready to empty out those hidden storage areas, like closets, cupboards, or containers because you now have the space to empty and sort.  

CHG # 2 Love the Lord.
Acknowledge God’s presence in your life so you can include Him in this process of getting things emptied - decluttered.  He will guide your steps and help you to:
  1. Gather your supplies – An assortment of bags is needed.  Heavy duty trash bags are inexpensive and hold a lot of “stuff” for transporting to the street as trash or to a donation center. Use plastic grocery bags for little parts that need containerized for donations.  Clear zip lock/slider bags are great for the smaller things that you want to keep and see. Sticky notes, sharpies, and tape are indispensible for labeling your bags as soon as they are filled. You do not want to mix up your categories.
  2. Designate an area for trash, another for donations and one for keeps.  Label those areas so it is easy to see how and where “stuff” is to get sorted.  This is a broad example of getting things categorized. 
  3. Stick with one activity at a time.  If you are sorting, then just sort.  If you are bagging, then just bag.  If you are labeling, then just label. You want to move around as little as possible, and follow through with completing one activity before moving on to the next one.    
  4. Set a realistic time frame: Break down your time into small attainable time frames.  A good starting point is to establish a minimum time frame of 15 minutes to a maximum of 2 hours.  You want to nurture and encourage yourself by seeing the success you make with small steps. 

CHG # 3: Ask for help, ask questions, and pray.  
  1. Feel free to ask me any kind of question that will help you to get organized.  I have a wealth of information and experience. 
  2. If you need the assistance, support, or the physical presence of someone else, then ask for it.  One of the biggest draw backs to getting a task accomplished is that we do not delegate or ask others to help us.  This is especially the case at home with family members or at the work place with fellow employees.  Our self sufficient pride, control, and perfectionism, can create a great deal of our clutter. 
  3. Ask the Lord to help you with the steps to take, like the ones mentioned above.  And ask Him to help you enjoy the process and learn from it.

CHG # 4 Love myself and others.
♥ To gather, means to come together in one direction.
♥ To scatter, means to go in many directions and be confused.

Follow through by moving in the direction that you said you were going to take.  You will prevent yourself and loved ones from being scattered here, there, and everywhere!

CHG # 5 Embrace change and set goals patiently.
Be patient with yourself as you go through the decluterring process of emptying out.  Avoid doing it in a hurry because haste truly does make waste for us at so many levels.

CHG # 6 See through your stuff from the inside out and follow through.
When you follow through with examples of applying these CHGs, you will conserve your space, time, energy, and money and know where to start.

To follow through means to complete what you start, and this means anything and everything:
♥ A thought
♥ An action
♥ A task or job
♥ Mean what you say and do it:
·         Make your “yes” yes.
·         Make your “no” no.

A lack of follow through often comes as the result of saying “yes” to too much.  Being a “yes” person is usually motivated by wanting to be a people pleaser.  Consequently, follow through often does not happen because there is too much on one’s plate.

This coming week let’s see how our SW will help us to be more cautious about what we say “yes” to and what we say “no” to. And from a spiritual perspective, if you have not  yet asked the Lord to come into your life, I pray that this be the time for you to say, “yes” to Him. May this also be the week that we stop procrastinating and commit to doing that job, task, or activity that we need to follow through with.  May you be richly blessed as you listen to this song that is all about God’s unconditional love for you and me.  It’s called, When God Ran by Phillips, Craig, and Dean.

November 28, 2012

Red Wednesday's Wisdom - CHG #6, Part One

See Through My Stuff from the Inside Out and Follow Through
A we reflect on CHG # 6, See Through My Stuff from the Inside Out and Follow Through, think about what this CHG implies as being the root cause of my clutter?

1.  My clutter builds up when I cannot see the “stuff” that is inside my:

♥ Head
♥ Heart
♥ Piles
♥ Files
♥ Bags
♥ Containers
 
2.  My clutter builds up when I do not follow through with a task or do what I said or intended to do.

Therefore, when I see through my “stuff” from the inside out and follow through, I lessen my clutter and this brings healing to me.

The Scripture to support CHG # 6 is from Matthew 23:26, “…First wash the inside of the cup and then the outside will become clean too.” What does Matthew 23:26 imply as being the root cause of my clutter?

♥ My clutter builds up when my priority is outward focused rather than inward focused.
♥ My clutter builds up when my outward appearance is more important than what is inside.
♥ My clutter builds up when I focus on your “stuff” rather than my own “stuff.”

Therefore, when I address what is on the inside of my head and heart, I am in the process of being cleansed, and this lessens my clutter and brings healing to me.

If you open your Life Recovery Bible to Matthew 23:26, you will see that the first sentence to this verse only consists of two words.  They were spoken by Jesus when He said, “Blind Pharisees!"
Here is my word of caution:  we need to avoid making the mistake of thinking these words were just for the Pharisees, who were a religious sect of Judaism.  The Pharisees were so extremely devoted to God’s laws that they became blind to the heart and love of Jesus as their Messiah. 

When I look at these words from a personal perspective, I am challenged to remove my own blinders.  I need to address the truth about how I see myself: 

♥ Is my focus on how I want to appear or who I truly am? 
♥ Are my motives guided by pride or humility? 
♥ Do I say one thing but do another?  
♥ Do I walk my talk?
♥ Am I inclined to evaluate and correct the faults of others more than myself?
♥ Do I look full of life, but inside I am dying?

From the very beginning when I introduced you to Spirit Work (SW), we have been learning to wash the inside of our own cups as we have entertained the questions that related to our individual thoughts and feelings.

The concept of seeing through my stuff originally came out of my Home Touched organizing business.  It relates to how we begin to sort through our material “stuff” and establish a home by containerizing those possessions.    

♥ Clear containers or bags provide the simplicity to “see through” or into the container.
♥ Non clear containers or bags are used when it is not desirable or necessary to “see through” or into the container

"Seeing though my stuff " also developed out of my spiritual need to look inward.  It’s an uncomfortable feeling to admit that I need to be cleansed. I need God’s spiritual eyes to “see through” the “stuff” of my own denial.  Denial represents the darkness of what I do not want to look at or want to "see through."  CHG #6  is about going inward to make an honest inventory about myself.  It means that I will take off my blinders and come out of my hiding.  I will “see through” my sin, my denial, my greed, my self –indulgence, my finger pointing, and whatever else the Holy Spirit reveals about me.

Over the next few weeks I am going to encourage you to write to me and ask whatever questions you have about material clutter and how to organize it.  You can either comment at the bottom of this post or you can email me directly at colleen.flenner@gmail.com In the Clutter Healing Classes, it has been amazing to witness how few questions participants had about their material clutter.  When people make an honest attempt to put the CHG’s into practice, they find out that their material clutter gets resolved.  For those of you who struggle with material clutter I hope that happens for you.

This coming week, our SW is to ask the Lord to help us see what we have been blind to seeing, and then ask Him how we are to follow through with addressing that blindness.

The song called Mary’s Alabaster Box by Cece Winans is such a great example of someone who looked at her life from the inside out and followed through with making a change.  May it inspire you to do the same.